I don’t think there are 100 trustworthy people on this planet. I have yet to meet even 1 that I can fully trust in every situation. Every person, no matter who they are will have their “thing”. I trust some people with my life but not with my wallet, where as I trust some other people with my money but not my well being, there is always a matter of who you trust and with what. And there are even people that you trust they think that they have your best interest in mind, and often will think they are helping and are actually hurting, so I trust they mean well, but don’t trust thier decisions.
Trust is earned, and not only on a person by person basis, but also a sitution by situation basis.
It’s funny though, every day you are forced to trust people you don’t even know.
I think the point behind this quote is to convince people that most people can be trusted; you may be burnt 100 times, but you’ll at least have met one person you can really trust. On the other hand, you could play it safe and never trust another person, avoiding the betrayal but losing the opportunity to be able to trust someone at all. Both extremes on the spectrum are more or less equally harmful; it is an individual’s values that are being tested here, not their wit or their good judgment.
Unfortunately, such aphorisms are generally null and void under the most likely of circumstances, as the world is hardly ever expressed in terms of black and white. It would be foolish to think otherwise.
The more people I meet the more I appreciate my dog ..
Seriously though, I would rather take the risk and give people the chance as opposed to living in a bubble and never allowing anyone to get close … and I have been burned more times than I could count.
I think that the bottom line comes down to a simpler question: whether or not you’re willing to give people the benefit of the doubt or if you need them to prove something to you.
I said this to a friend of mine the other day when she started putting herself down and questioning her judgement. It’s not that she’s a bad judge of character - far from it, but she opens herself up to people who later use it against her. It’s not even that she does this early on. She gets to know them and they show her that they are her friends, only to later hurt her when she’s least expecting it.
But this is a new development, overall. I would hate to see her lose her trusting nature and her openness to new people and new ideas, so I said this to her… and she got it.
And what I’ve learned from my own experiences as well as hers, is that you get over the “burns”. They heal, you learn something and you move on. But you don’t stop letting new people in… maybe you’re a little more cautious, but you don’t stop trusting people.
i understand this for myself because sometimes (or frequently) i am afraid to trust and later i have realized that the person WAS trustworthy but it was too late.
I think cynics would lead very lonely lives. I rather get burned than spend like in solitude. Every burn is a lesson learnt. That’s how I plan on learning from mistakes and knowing what to watch out for.
I don’t think so. Trust must be earned, and I happen to trust myself enough to make wise decisions in that field.
Comment by Zin � July 4, 2006 @ 19:32 pm
I don’t think there are 100 trustworthy people on this planet. I have yet to meet even 1 that I can fully trust in every situation. Every person, no matter who they are will have their “thing”. I trust some people with my life but not with my wallet, where as I trust some other people with my money but not my well being, there is always a matter of who you trust and with what. And there are even people that you trust they think that they have your best interest in mind, and often will think they are helping and are actually hurting, so I trust they mean well, but don’t trust thier decisions.
Trust is earned, and not only on a person by person basis, but also a sitution by situation basis.
It’s funny though, every day you are forced to trust people you don’t even know.
Trust has cost me alot.
Comment by Ed � July 5, 2006 @ 9:55 am
I don’t agree at all. The negative of the 100 ‘burnings’ is much worse than the negative of missing one good person.
Comment by EssPea | Photography � July 5, 2006 @ 11:18 am
I think the point behind this quote is to convince people that most people can be trusted; you may be burnt 100 times, but you’ll at least have met one person you can really trust. On the other hand, you could play it safe and never trust another person, avoiding the betrayal but losing the opportunity to be able to trust someone at all. Both extremes on the spectrum are more or less equally harmful; it is an individual’s values that are being tested here, not their wit or their good judgment.
Unfortunately, such aphorisms are generally null and void under the most likely of circumstances, as the world is hardly ever expressed in terms of black and white. It would be foolish to think otherwise.
— Vertigo Drake
Comment by VertigoDrake � July 6, 2006 @ 2:06 am
The more people I meet the more I appreciate my dog ..
Seriously though, I would rather take the risk and give people the chance as opposed to living in a bubble and never allowing anyone to get close … and I have been burned more times than I could count.
Comment by Sue � July 6, 2006 @ 11:30 am
I think that the bottom line comes down to a simpler question: whether or not you’re willing to give people the benefit of the doubt or if you need them to prove something to you.
I said this to a friend of mine the other day when she started putting herself down and questioning her judgement. It’s not that she’s a bad judge of character - far from it, but she opens herself up to people who later use it against her. It’s not even that she does this early on. She gets to know them and they show her that they are her friends, only to later hurt her when she’s least expecting it.
But this is a new development, overall. I would hate to see her lose her trusting nature and her openness to new people and new ideas, so I said this to her… and she got it.
And what I’ve learned from my own experiences as well as hers, is that you get over the “burns”. They heal, you learn something and you move on. But you don’t stop letting new people in… maybe you’re a little more cautious, but you don’t stop trusting people.
Comment by FyreGoddess � July 6, 2006 @ 14:06 pm
i understand this for myself because sometimes (or frequently) i am afraid to trust and later i have realized that the person WAS trustworthy but it was too late.
Comment by carrie � July 7, 2006 @ 19:33 pm
I think cynics would lead very lonely lives. I rather get burned than spend like in solitude. Every burn is a lesson learnt. That’s how I plan on learning from mistakes and knowing what to watch out for.
Comment by Joy � July 8, 2006 @ 12:08 pm
I’ve had enough life lessons to last me, well, a lifetime, so I’ll gladly pass on being burned by people that I trusted.
Comment by marie b. � July 9, 2006 @ 1:03 am