They say that things happen in threes
March 27th, 2006… and sometimes I hope that’s true.
For the past two years (this is year three), once a year I have known someone who has died a horribly tragic death at a fairly young age. The first, two years ago, was the motorcycle accident of a childhood friend of mine. He was 29. Last year was the drug overdose of my niece’s mother. She was 24. Now my friend in Seattle who was 32. (There was a thing in the paper today.)
That’s three. I’m ready for this to end. While I recognize that it could be a whole lot worse, i don’t want to go to another funeral for someone so young. It’s depressing and tragic to pay your condolences to a parent. Moreso, perhaps, AS a parent. What’s even worse is paying condolences to grandparents.
It’s only just starting to feel real to me. It takes me a while to process these kinds of shocks. But the more real it becomes, the more I can’t help but think that I don’t want this to keep being a habit. Once a year for young people whose parents are outliving them is FAR too often.
I just don’t think it’s in my power to stop it.
It’s not within anyone’s power to stop death. All we can do is try to delay the inevitable. Human tragedies occur frequently and shouldn’t be the cause of so much pain. There’s a time for mourning and a place within all of us that will allow their memory to live on. I believe that no one wants to be the cause of pain by the unfortunate event of their death. If you can take any comfort from these words I’m glad. Sorry for your loss.
Comment by Jorge � March 27, 2006 @ 14:52 pm
*hugs* I love you, my darling.
Comment by Parizad � March 28, 2006 @ 9:26 am
Death is sad, but I have come to accept it. My aunt died december 26th (05) from cancer. she was maybe 10 years older than me. my father died 3 years ago march 11, a heart attack, but had chronic hep and a liver transplant 8 yrs prev. my family was stunned. i realized i had been waiting for that call for 8 years. i wasn’t surprise. very sad tho. he was only 48.
Comment by Dawn � March 28, 2006 @ 13:39 pm
It’s not so much death as how young all of them are.
Death I understand and can accept and these have not been the only deaths I’ve experienced, just the closest.
It’s giving my symapthies to the parents and grandparents. It’s seeing their very young children who will grow up without a parent. It’s knowing that they didn’t get as full a life as they probably deserved… and it’s that they’re all violent and tragic.
That’s a huge difference. When people pass away from natural causes, it’s a lot easier to understand and accept than when their death was sudden and could have been prevented.
Comment by FyreGoddess � March 28, 2006 @ 13:43 pm
As a parent, I can only imagine what a tragedy it is to lose a child. It’s not the natural order of things. We want to see our children grow and thrive and outlive us.
Comment by Cav � March 29, 2006 @ 22:59 pm